Hook up apps like Tinder make sex a quick and easy find in 2016, but going out and getting laid isn’t quite as simple as swiping right for people living with a disability.
For a long time now, the general assumption amongst has been that most disabled people are asexual.
When was the last time that disability was brought up alongside sex education in schools? When did the government last mention New Zealand’s sex industry and disability in the same sentence?
Perhaps a bigger question – when was the last time you saw a disabled man or woman portrayed in a sexually satisfying way on mainstream media or in music videos?
The guess would be never.
In many ways, relationships are easier to form and engage in now than at any other time in human history.
Social media makes it easy to meet new people with similar interests, but it also allows a certain mystery in those innocent early moments.
If two people begin chatting on social media, it leads to an exciting meet up with this new person, perhaps at a nice coffee shop or at a bar, but it isn’t until that moment (or perhaps after) that the actual friendship, or the beginning of a relationship, really begins.
The great thing about social media is that it is accessible to everyone, if only the local community was the same.
Disabled people often face four major barriers, making a quick getaway from home to meet up with a girl in town almost impossible at short notice.
The harsh reality is that these four barriers are very real, there is no sugar coating them.
For the majority of disabled people, going out on the town and “getting some” just doesn’t happen at the drop of a hat. Therefore, when they do get these opportunities, it becomes so much more than just a random hook up to satisfy sexual urges, however amazing that may feel at the time.
These barriers shouldn’t deter however, but sadly, they seem to nonetheless.